…… does not mean the same thing as stability.
At least to me.
And since I’m the one writing this, dear reader, we’re going with my definition.
Stable, to me, has a sense of instability within it, ironically. Something, or someone, that is stable, could …… at any moment …… become unstable.
How many of us thought our loved one was “stable”, only to find out that, suddenly, he/she was anything but?
Stability feels more long term. Granted, not forever. Or anything near that. But more firm than stable.
My father is what I consider to be stable. He’s holding his own and is not deteriorating as quickly as “they” predicted.
Which is a good thing.
But it also means that I need to return home.
He doesn’t need anyone 24/7 and I need to get out of here before I lose my mind/go stir crazy.
There are only so many shows you can watch about Alaska /tuna/crabs/car restoring/Yukon Men/Mountain Men/car-motorcycle racing/Surviving the wilderness before blowing a gasket.
So …… I need a break.
And maybe he does, too.
Because he’s stable.
And now to stability.
I’ve decided that I need it.
I’m tired of trying to live in two places.
Two very different places.
I can’t really live fully or put down roots if I’m not living somewhere full time.
So I’ve come to a decision.
It was a difficult one.
And yet it wasn’t.
I’m going to sell my Texas house/s and mostly everything in it and move to New York.
It’s where my heart is.
Well, much of my heart.
Of course I’ll miss seeing my Texas kids as often and will miss seeing J Bear on an almost daily basis …… HUGELY.
But I can be in Texas in three hours when I fly from NY.
And I plan to visit often.
It feels like it’s time to live for me.
Because life is short, damnit.
And I want to live fully.
While I can.
The hardest part …… and the thing I really don’t look forward to …… is selling/getting rid of everything in my house.
I did downsize when I moved to Waco. But that downsizing was nothing compared to what I need to do to move to NY.
It almost makes me hyperventilate.
It will mean more than just getting rid of furniture, appliances, kitchen stuff, etc.
It means parting with many things that I’ve kept for sentimental reasons. Things that “we” had/shared.
It means going through photo albums/music albums/books/travel momentos/framed pictures/paintings/scrap books/all things sentimental …… and purging most of it.
And right now …… I can’t even.
I think I’ll head to bed now.
Unfotunately, these days …… very much like the months after Jim died …… it’s the one thing I look forward to each day.
It’s time to find/make some stability.
P.S. Anyone want to buy a baby grand player piano?
Heavy sigh ……
It is what I am doing now as I prepare to move to New Mexico. It’s not just “packing” – it’s so much more. Sending love and hugs as you tackle this next big step.
Kudos to you for making the decision for your stability. I totally understand. It’s a huge step to purge when you are a widow. Wishing you the best on this next big step and hoping that it will bring you peace. 🙂
I think it’s a wonderful choice! I’m excited for you!! Yay, NY!!