…… what the statute of limitations is for “widda brain”.
For those of you uninitiated in this “club”, consider yourself lucky for an altogether different reason: being widowed affects your memory. Big time.
Like we needed something else to kill off our brain cells.
All kidding aside (for the moment), when you first experience “widda brain”, it’s hella scary. Sometimes terrifying. You forget whole conversations. Overnight.
You forget meeting people.
You forget the paragraph/sentence you just read. Three times.
You forget appointments.
Or you go to an appointment …… a week early (not that I’ve personally experienced that … <cough, cough>).
You lose large chunks of time.
And wonder if you have Alzheimers.
Or a split personality.
It really is very frightening.
Until you find out that it’s a “normal” effect of grief.
For quite a while.
Or maybe that’s just me.
So I’m not sure how long I can claim W.B.
And when I just have to admit that I’m an idiot.
Who should maybe stay in one place for more than a month at a time.
Tonight I had plans to go with a friend to an event for the women in our church here in Texas (just in case you can’t keep up with me, either). She was going to pick me up at 6:00.
I had just finished getting ready at 5:30.
At 5:32 my cell phone rang … it was a number I didn’t recognize so I did what I always do with those calls.
I ignored it.
My phone sounded out the voice mail alert, so I picked it up to listen.
The caller was a woman I’d never met, telling me that she was at the restaurant where we were supposed to meet … at 5:30.
I had completely forgotten that a mutual friend introduced the two of us over email …… because this woman is a widow who doesn’t know any younger widows.
And we did indeed make plans to meet for dinner.
I need a brain transplant.
Thankfully, my friend is/was very gracious and thought the situation was pretty funny.
I admit that I had to laugh.
This is my life.
A lot of the time.
Thankfully I have yet to find my keys in my freezer.
I called my new friend back and told her I’d be there in 15 minutes …… and I was.
In spite of a very long train.
And we had a great visit.
She now knows a younger widow.
I hope to help her meet the women in our “Circle”.
As well as get her to Camp Widow in Tampa.
I also got to say hi/bye to a couple of friends who ended up sitting at a table next to ours. They’re moving to Guyana.
And you thought New York was far from Texas!
I’m now going to change gears and post random pictures from the past few weeks.
Just to catch you up on a few things.
I bet you can’t wait.
I took this from my rooftop in NY. By the pool. Whoop!
This is the back view of the dress that I wore to the Tonys.
You know …… THE Tonys.
And yes, this is the front.
This picture was taken at a restaurant called Bare Burgers. Their lighting is upside down lamps.
Which is pretty dang cool, is it not?
This is the King, in “The King and I”, Ken Watanabe, posing with fans after the show. I didn’t see the show on this evening, but just happened to be in the right place at the right time. He took time to take pics with several people. Which was very nice of him.
This is at the IMAX where I watched the 3D version of “Jurassic World”. I thought it was kind of cool/fun. If you ignore the fact that almost everyone is eaten by a dinosaur. Which was a whole lot more believable than Bryce Dallas Howard running through jungles and the entire picture in a tank top, a skirt and 4 inch heels.
This is Gracie, trying to show me that she’s ready to go to Texas.
This is the picture I took at the closing of our family home last week.
And yes, that’s a mimosa.
And no, I didn’t cry.
I just took deep breaths.
And drank a couple of those.
It’s been a busy couple of weeks down here.
I did the closing, went to a couple of doctor appointments, had blood work done (whoop?), had an MRI done on my aching shoulder, purged a lot of “stuff” from my closets, bathroom cabinets and garage, and replaced an AC/furnace. The entire thing. (Well, *I* didn’t do the replacing, I just watched for 8 hours and paid for it …… which is easier written than done.)
I spent my birthday/Father’s Day with my parents, going to a movie (the new Avengers …. don’t bother), dinner, and then another movie (“Inside Out” … go see it!). And I talked to my kids. It was a good day.
Now I’m in the middle of getting ready for a trip to Florida with all six (6) of my kids. Plus Little Bit. Plus one Significant Other (not mine).
If you’re keeping count, that’s that nine (9) people.
Don’t be jealous.
We’re going to brave the heat and the crowds at Universal. And hopefully hit as many roller coasters as many times as we can in a 72 hour period.
More or less.
As well as pool time.
I’m excited about it and am really looking forward to spending time with these fabulous people. Hopefully I’ll get lots of great pictures. Unless “widda brain” prevails.
So it’s anybody’s guess.
Just a little side note: I was having terrible memory issues too…thought I was having early onset of Alzheimers. I found that when I stopped eating dairy and limited my carbs and sugar intake…my memory improved amazingly. Maybe see a nutritionist and check your nutrient levels to see where you are deficient. Grief takes a LOT out of your body and you may need to replenish:) Love you tons!
I friend once told me, that as long as you hadn’t returned to your pre baby weight you could call your mental lapses “baby brain” That covered me for a LONG time. SO, by her thinking, you can probably call it widda brain as long as your husband is still dead. So I think we’re covered – never have to admit to Alzheimers 🙂 (although in your case staying in one state for more than a month at a time might help too…..). That new widow was lucky to have found you! love and miss you. Have a blast with the 6 plus 2 and you – hmm i am seeing a reality series here……. If you need someone to hold Little Bit while the rest of you go on roller coasters just let me know – I probably could hop on an airplane pretty quick!!!!!!!!
Love the pictures. Make memories with the kids.